Latest Parenting Class Question
February 1, 2009
In the divorce parenting class I taught last week, one Dad asked me a great question that I think many parents wonder about. He said, “With all these people around me going through the same thing, why do I feel so utterly alone in this divorce process?” The answer is so simple, yet so entirely complicated at the same time. Yes, you are most certainly not alone if you look at the sheer numbers (several hundreds of people file for divorce in the State of Connecticut alone in any given month). However, you may feel alone because divorce is not the kind of topic most people talk openly about with the general population they come in contact with. Most parents remain unaware that others around them are going through the same thing. Divorce support groups are a great way to hear other divorcing parents’ stories and feel more supported in your own experience. Self-help books on the topic will help you understand what’s happening now and what to expect as the process moves forward. Remember too, there is no “short cut” to this process. It will take time to become more comfortable with your feelings, the loss of the marital relationship (good or bad) and adjusting to your “new” life.
